ARE YOU CREATING YOUR REALITY FROM YOUR NOT SELF OR YOUR HIGHER SELF PERCEPTION?
In every moment of everyday, you are creating your reality through your perspective and choices. One of the most important awareness pieces is realising when you are operating from your Not Self fear, lack, judgment and comfortable known (even in thought!) - you are multiplying the energy you actually desire to be free from. Your other option is the expansion, love and truth of your Higher Self awareness and knowing that's waiting for you to return to. THIS by far is the most helpful awareness and transformative code in your reconditioning journey - it shifts your energetic frequency, perspective and therefore life!
Higher Self or Not Self: How to know who is running your life?
Your Higher Self is your truth and divine life force energy. You cannot not be your true self energy but your light & energy can become distorted and clouded by the stories of the Not Self. Your Not Self is your learned illusions, conditioning and behaviour - it is not your truth, despite how overwhelming and convincing it can be.
Your true Higher Self energy expresses as love, intuition, trust, abundance, honest self‑reflection, aligned action, forgiveness and presence. It is not perfection; it is honest, compassionate and committed to truth over comfort, and it expects some fear at the growth edge because that is how you expand (hello higher timeline!)
Your Not‑Self expresses as separation from divine life force, fear, judgment, control, proving, people‑pleasing, busyness for validation, comparison and victimhood. When the Not‑Self leads, life feels small, effortful and misaligned. Everything just feels hard – it just feels like one thing after another and you can't catch a break. This is what most people feel like, until they begin their Human Design experiment and change their awareness, perception and therefore their reality. Any form of judgment (and I mean any - even the spiritual kind ;) keeps you on a lower timeline. Love and acceptance expands all - this is what HD gives you! It starts with yourself, and then expands to others.
THIS WEEK ON THE POD: Awareness That Will Transform Your Life
Awareness is everything. Awareness and perception in your Higher Self energy dissolves problems and illusions of the Not Self, and the POWER practice gives you a simple way to shift your state from lack and fear into expansion and evolution. When you catch an untrue illusionary thought of lack or fear from the Not Self, you have started the transformation. You do not need to over‑process; you can notice, choose again and embody a higher frequency and response.
Life, especially during these eclipses, will bring to the surface blind spots so you can evolve from your Not Self perception to your Higher Self truth, which means you can treat them as motivating invitations rather than setbacks (I have loved this time!!). You get to be grateful that everything that is coming up now is for your greatest good and return to your higher frequency + higher timeline!
When you notice comparison, people‑pleasing, proving, control, fear or scarcity - use the POWER Practice that I shared on the pod last week (you all loved!!).
First, you pause and create space from the limited thought or story. Next, you look for the opportunity and feel GRATEFUL for the invitation to timeline shift by asking, “What is this inviting me to evolve?” Then you witness the protective part with love without feeding any further victim narrative. After that, you embody your strategy and authority - what is your most expansive, intuitive awareness and action? Finally, you respond as your Higher Self would and take a single aligned step within 24 hours (with Universal divine energy!)
Human Design Energy Center check‑ins:
I love to use the awareness of the energy centers to recognise patterns of the Not Self to shift into your higher frequency and timeline (makes it so so much easier to notice and transform!).
NB: Whether you have a center undefined or defined does make a difference, but for the purposes of a newsletter (if only I could go as deep as I like - we will draw together). Join the Certification for all the depth and juice!!
Ajna & Head
The Not‑Self demands certainty that everything will work out as they plan before moving forward. It tries to “figure out life” from logic and rationality, which leads to overwhelm, overthinking and analysis paralysis. The Higher Self surrenders to it's present intuitive knowing, trusts in the inevitable unknown and allows the next intuitive step to lead beyond logic probabilities. The Higher Self is connected with divine intelligence and surrenders with aligned action of where it feels called to go, knowing that they are held and guided each step of the way.
Root and Sacral
In the Not‑Self, you rush, live in chronic fight‑or‑flight and equate busy‑ness with worth. You feel guilty about rest, push through exhaustion, and swing between burnout and procrastination. In the Higher Self, you choose a grounded pace, set clear boundaries with work and availability, protect rest as a strategy, delegate or simplify where possible and allow joy to fuel sustainable output. You notice when you are in flight or fight - and make the active choice to slow down, become intentional and connect with your body's awareness.
Solar Plexus (Emotional)
If your Solar Plexus is defined, the Not‑Self acts impulsively on emotional highs and lows, represses feelings or uses emotion to control outcomes. If it is undefined, the Not‑Self absorbs other people's emotions and avoids truth or confrontation to keep the peace (people pleaser and saver). In the Higher Self, you develop emotional intelligence, express feelings intentionally and pair compassion with firm boundaries. You honour your process and other people, without the need to save, take responsibility or take on an emotional experience as your own.
Spleen (Intuition/Instinct)
The Not‑Self ignores intuition, clings to the familiar and lets fear overrule inner knowing. It can also disconnect from the body and feel sick & stressed (most of the population living from the head, not the intuition or heart). The Higher Self trusts subtle cues from the body, discerns real danger from imagined fear, releases what no longer serves and lets body‑led wisdom guide the next step. THIS is how we become self-sovereign and not conditional & controllable (we need this in the new paradigm!)
Heart/Will (Motivation and Self Worth)
The Not‑Self seeks worth through proving, performing, comparing, undercharging or over‑delivering, staying small, not taking up space, fear of new roles/heightened responsibilities, worries about what other people think and tears down / judges others to make themselves feel better (for a moment). The Higher Self focuses on itself and gives it's energy to what lights their heart up (no matter how it looks to others). It ENJOYS it's life and deeply devoted and motivated by what their heart desires. It remembers it's innate worth, chooses fair energetic exchange and acts from genuine motivation rather than obligation.
Identity (Direction and Love)
The Not‑Self forces a single identity or purpose, follows someone else's path and stays in the same place (even if unhealthy) to avoid discomfort. The Higher Selftreats purpose as an evolving expression, chooses supportive environments and moves step by step in an aligned direction even when the full path is not yet visible.
With this awareness, you get to notice the energy behind your thoughts & actions, and CHOOSE what energy you wish to grow and expand. Either your Not Self's illusions and limited timeline, or in the love and freedom of your true Higher Self frequency and higher timeline (where you naturally align with what you desire!).
Uncover more in this week's podcast! Not Self or Higher Self: Who is creating your reality?
Journal prompts:
Reflect on where you are defending a story that keeps you small (where you defend is in your Not Self). Ask yourself what your Higher Self would do with your current situation today? Identify the center whose Not‑Self pattern is loudest this week and take it through your POWER Practice so you can elevate into your higher self energy and timeline.
